Forgiveness is a process that takes time and involves a decision one makes to release feelings of resentment, hatred and anger toward anyone who has harmed or offended you whether or not they deserve your forgiveness. It’s a touchy subject and often times hard to address. It may have a different meaning for different people, depending on how you see things.
How do you have compassion for someone who has offended you? For people who exhibit behavior that’s uncaring with no regards for others. And not only once, often repetitive offenses and sometimes by the same person. The wounds you feel can be so deep that the thought of the offense that has been done to you, brings about feelings of anger and sorrow. The thought of forgiving that person becomes inconceivable. It’s not easy to show mercy when someone wrongs you. It can be difficult to put your feelings aside especially when it involves people who are most closest. Feeling that level of defense, depends on you and your situation. It’s different for everyone and so the level of forgiveness comes in many forms. There are people that have had seriously bad and unlawful things done to them and/ or their family members such as murder, rape and assault. That can cause very deep wounds and severe trauma. Nonetheless, there are people that do find it in their hearts to forgive such offenses. That takes a brave and compassionate person; and asking for forgiveness is braver because that means you have come to terms with your wrongful behavior.
In (Ephesians 4:31-32) God says get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Forgiveness is all about one’s self and understanding that we’re all fallible of making mistakes. Not that I’m condoning any bad behavior what so ever. When we forgive, we liberate ourselves from pain. You can also forgive someone in your heart, even if they don’t ask you for forgiveness. You don’t have to associate with your offender, if you choose not to. It all depends on the circumstances involved. Forgetting is also a part of forgiving. God states in (Isaiah 43:25) “I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake and remember is no more.” If people apologize and truly mean what they say, then forgetting the offense makes it easier. I read once “If someone hurts you, abandons you, betrays you, it says nothing about your worth and everything about their character.
Forgiveness holds power and that is of feeling free. Knowing that it’s up to God to judge us. He knows our true hearts and intentions. (1 Peter 4:5) But they will have to give account to him who is ready to judge the living and the dead. Forgiveness is an important part of our ascension. Being close to God and praying, will help you make better decisions. He will lead you on the right path and help prevent you from folly behavior and that you may not abuse anyone in anyway. The word of God is wisdom. (Acts 6:10) “But they could not stand up against his wisdom, or the Spirit by whom he spoke.” Be a better person and pave your pathway to heaven. Forgive if you want to be forgiven.