Dear Claire
I just recently lost my dad. I have a hard time coping with his loss. He was 88 and died of heart failure. His memories always linger. I find myself crying inconsolably at times. I have no motivation and I find myself lost. Can you please give me some advice on how to cope with the loss of my dad.
Anonymous
Dear Claire
I’m a mom of 3 adult children. My oldest daughter is 49, My other daughter is 45 and my son is 40. My children have good jobs and make very good money. The problem is that my 45 yr old daughter, who is single and has 2 children of her own, is constantly asking my husband and I for money. She always seems to be in turmoil when it comes to her finances. We try to be good parents and have always helped her with the children and financially. However her finances never seem to change. This is putting a strain on our marriage and our own finances. I want to be a good mom and help her but my husband said that she’s old enough and needs to take responsibility for herself. Any advice. Turmoil
Dear Anonymous,
For starters, I want to give you my condolence for your loss. Losing a parent is one of the hardest losses that we can endure. Being close to your parents either one or both, makes the loss even worse. Our parents are our first love so their love is so cherished throughout our lives. The loss of my mom was extremely hard as is yours. I could never bare the thought of losing her but it happened and the pain was excruciating and so I understand all that your going through. Everyone copes with death differently. For the most part at the beginning of your loss, you feel as though your in a fog. You can’t grasp what happened. It seems surreal. After a while, you start to realize that they’re not coming back. Stay strong. Hold on to those memories you had with him and know that in spirit he will never leave you and is now in peace. Although its never enough, he had a long life and be grateful for the time God has given you with him. Speak to people that endure the same loss as you. That’s very helpful. Know that your dad would want you to stay strong and to go about your life. He would not like to see you destroy your life because of his death. Try to cultivate a life for yourself. If you have a family, make sure not to neglect them due to your loss. You want to give that same love to your family as your dad gave to you so they to will be able to cherish it as you do. Know that you will have bouts of tears and it’s okay but always pick yourself up so that you don’t fall in deep despair. When you think about all those wonderful memories with your dad, know that no one could ever take them away from you. You’re in my Prayers. God bless
Dear Anonymous,
Dear Claire
I just recently lost my dad. I have a hard time coping with his loss. He was 88 and died of heart failure. His memories always linger. I find myself crying inconsolably at times. I have no motivation and I find myself lost. Can you please give me some advice on how to cope with the loss of my dad.
Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
For starters, I want to give you my condolence for your loss. Losing a parent is one of the hardest losses that we can endure. Being close to your parents either one or both, makes the loss even worse. Our parents are our first love so their love is so cherished throughout our lives. The loss of my mom was extremely hard as is yours. I could never bare the thought of losing her but it happened and the pain was excruciating and so I understand all that your going through. Everyone copes with death differently. For the most part at the beginning of your loss, you feel as though your in a fog. You can’t grasp what happened. It seems surreal. After a while, you start to realize that they’re not coming back. Stay strong. Hold on to those memories you had with him and know that in spirit he will never leave you and is now in peace. Although its never enough, he had a long life and be grateful for the time God has given you with him. Speak to people that endure the same loss as you. That’s very helpful. Know that your dad would want you to stay strong and to go about your life. He would not like to see you destroy your life because of his death. Try to cultivate a life for yourself. If you have a family, make sure not to neglect them due to your loss. You want to give that same love to your family as your dad gave to you so they to will be able to cherish it as you do. Know that you will have bouts of tears and it’s okay but always pick yourself up so that you don’t fall in deep despair. When you think about all those wonderful memories with your dad, know that no one could ever take them away from you. You’re in my Prayers. God bless
Dear Claire
I’m a mom of 3 adult children. My oldest daughter is 49, My other daughter is 45 and my son is 40. My children have good jobs and make very good money. The problem is that my 45 yr old daughter, who is single and has 2 children of her own, is constantly asking my husband and I for money. She always seems to be in turmoil when it comes to her finances. We try to be good parents and have always helped her with the children and financially. However her finances never seem to change. This is putting a strain on our marriage and our own finances. I want to be a good mom and help her but my husband said that she’s old enough and needs to take responsibility for herself. Any advice. Turmoil