Love Relationship Advice

Through out our lives, we’re in constant relationships.  There’s parent and child, siblings, friendships etc..  Most relationships are intricate and have an affect on us in some way.  In this article, I will be focusing on intimate relationships.  In the future, I will be composing an article on different relationship dynamics.  First of all, what is a relationship?  The definition is, “ the way two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected.  My definition of an intimate relationship is two people that are connected intimately.  And only two people.  Relationships are complicated enough dealing with one person, none the less, inviting more people; in which I consider that a lifestyle totally non applicable towards an intimate relationship.

       An intimate relationship is two people that love, respect and support one another.  Let’s start with love.  Love is a tender subject.  Some people choose to recognize love some don’t.  Why is that?  Well because love starts from birth.  Unfortunately, there are people that get bad breaks in life such as when a child is born and somehow for whatever circumstances, is left without parents.  Sometimes a parent can’t take care of a child for whatever reason and leaves them with someone that might abuse or neglect them or they’re left in orphanages or perhaps one or both parents are deceased or their raised  in a household where love is not demonstrative.  All these reasons vary.  Please feel free to read my article “Children Learn What they Live”.  In order to love someone, you need to love yourself first without vanity and narcissism.  So many people crave love and don’t realize that love is a give and take.  It comes from the heart and it requires patience, kindness, understanding, humbleness and compassion. Love is not for what you can get out of it, but what you can give.  Love is not for the greedy, selfish, weak nor faint.

The next is respect. What is the definition of respect? “ due regard for the feeling, wishes, rights or traditions of others. Sadly so, respect is something that I don't see often in intimate relationships. Respect is something that needs to be taught. When you learn respect, you become beneficial and create a beneficial effect. So if you can't regard the feelings, wishes, rights and traditions of your significant other, then you've disregarded respect. Therefore, before you care to partake in an intimate relationship, get a clear understanding of what respect is. Being demanding, bossy, ridiculing, abusive, unkind, expecting without giving and always putting yourself first, is not respect. This is bratty, selfish, narcissistic behavior that needs to be corrected, if you want a relationship to work. Lastly, what is support? It states “ bear all or part of the weight; hold up, give assistance to. This is self explanatory. The bottom line is to be of assistance to each other in all predicaments. Remember, when searching for love, it's important to find a partner that's going to put in the same effort as you. Reciprocity is the key. Love, respect, support and value one another. Make sure not to interpret love for lust because that's a total danger zone. Also, never, ever force love. True love comes natural between two people. If someone doesn't love you, don't get obsessed nor take it personally, just let it go. There's someone out there better suited for you. When looking for a relationship, make sure the love you desire, you have for yourself first, the respect you desire, you have for yourself first, and the honor you desire, that you honor yourself first. Therefore then all this, that you have for yourself, can be given to and shared with your partner to establish a happy, healthy relationship.

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